It seems that affairs and infidelity are on the rise, particularly with the rise of websites like Ashley Madison, which has the tagline “Life is Short. Have an Affair.” And the recent hacking of Ashley Madison has  brought the topic of affairs and infidelity back into the spotlight.

So we spoke to Dr. Tammy Nelson, who is a sex and relationship expert, an international speaker, an author and a licensed psychotherapist who has written extensively about infidelity and what she calls the “continuum of monogamy.”

In this episode Tammy discusses:

  • Her thoughts on why affairs and infidelity are on the rise
  • Whether couples can recover from an affair
  • What is “the new monogamy” and how it can apply to any couple
  • What is “erotic recovery” and why it’s essential for couples who want to recover from infidelity
  • Questions to ask partners to help them understand the affair and start to heal
  • How to help partners look at their monogamy and redefine their monogamy
  • One thing couples can do today to prevent an affair or change their sex life
  • Open marriages: can they really work? Or is an open marriage a recipe for disaster?
  • What heterosexual couples learn from gay couples when it comes to open relationships
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About Dr Tammy Nelson

Tammy NelsonDr. Tammy Nelson is a sex and relationship expert, an international speaker, an author and a licensed psychotherapist committed to sustainable relational change. With almost 30 years in the business of helping couples, she is a Board Certified Sexologist, a Certified Sex Therapist, a Licensed Professional Counsellor, and a Certified Imago Relationship therapist. Dr. Nelson is author of several books including “Getting the Sex You Want; Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together”  and “The New Monogamy; Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity.”  She has been a featured expert in New York Times, Washington Post, Self, Glamour Magazine, Cosmopolitan, RedBook, MSNBC, Healthy Life Magazine, Fox News, Shape, Men’s Health, Woman’s Day, Women’s Health, The Sun, and a source in Time Magazine. She writes for the Psychotherapy Networker and Huffington Post and can be followed on her blog at

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